Searching on the Internet for the girl of your dreams, the one who will push all your buttons in just the right way, you can certainly do a lot of things the correct way. And you can just as easily do the wrong things every step of the way, virtually guaranteeing yourself a life of loneliness and misery. Out in the "real" world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success. But when meeting somebody online, those same qualities might not work so well as you'd think they would.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman's point of view. Being too aggressive has the unfortunate tendency to make you come across as scary, and it makes the other person want to be as far away from you as possible. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Being patient is very important, and will get you very far.
You've heard that nobody is perfect, and I'm sure you'll agree that is absolutely right. We are all flawed in some way or another...and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. In work or sports, demanding perfection is on issue. But when you expect perfection from another person, or a friend or potential lover, it definitely will not work. You'll be waiting a long time. Realize you are going to get imperfect people, just like yourself. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can't.
Little white lies and false fronts won't work. Being honest from the beginning is the best thing you can do. Generate a decent profile. Spice it up a bit, but don't but any lies or falsehoods in there. The truth always has a way of coming out in the end. If you promise something fantastic, but can't deliver, then you are going to be sorry in the long run, and your heart will be broken into a million pieces.
So if you avoid being too aggressive, don't expect any form of perfection, and are always completely honest from the beginning, you will find a lifetime of happiness and satisfaction.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman's point of view. Being too aggressive has the unfortunate tendency to make you come across as scary, and it makes the other person want to be as far away from you as possible. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Being patient is very important, and will get you very far.
You've heard that nobody is perfect, and I'm sure you'll agree that is absolutely right. We are all flawed in some way or another...and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. In work or sports, demanding perfection is on issue. But when you expect perfection from another person, or a friend or potential lover, it definitely will not work. You'll be waiting a long time. Realize you are going to get imperfect people, just like yourself. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can't.
Little white lies and false fronts won't work. Being honest from the beginning is the best thing you can do. Generate a decent profile. Spice it up a bit, but don't but any lies or falsehoods in there. The truth always has a way of coming out in the end. If you promise something fantastic, but can't deliver, then you are going to be sorry in the long run, and your heart will be broken into a million pieces.
So if you avoid being too aggressive, don't expect any form of perfection, and are always completely honest from the beginning, you will find a lifetime of happiness and satisfaction.
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